Saturday, June 1, 2013

Do you know somebody who suffers from excessive blaming of others? Of course you do. The person gets a list of resentments about things that were done to them… and then that list tends to grow out of control.

Here's the thing. When you blame and resent people for the past, you're giving them responsibility over important parts of your life. Now they're responsible, not you. You give them that responsibility, even though they may have screwed up! Doesn't make sense, right?

On the other hand, some people in our lives - colleagues, friends, parents, family members - DID play an important part in our life story, right? They did have an effect on us, and in some cases they did hurt us.

So how do you deal with that disparity? In this video, Tony will show you a strategy called "Conscious Blaming." This strategy gives you a win-win: you get to blame others for things that happened to you BUT in a way that won't hurt you. Mieke was able to unlock and release a whole set of resentments and self-limitations, and live an expanded life.

Here's the video. Feel free to share it with a friend!

Mark Peysha
CEO and Cofounder
Robbins-Madanes Training 

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